I'm new, what advice would you give
The most common questions newbies ask
The most common questions sent to the UB email address are from people who are new, want to get in to the scene and are looking for advice.
Our top tips below
Have a read of the UB Website
Add your name to the Mailing List
Speak to a Greeter
Look at our Resources Section
Come to an Event
What happens at a UB Party
Look after your safety online
As in the real world being nice and respecting people, goes a long way.
We understand some people have anxiety and we would recommend talking to one of our Greeters.
Please remember, nobody in UB gets paid, the community supports and helps where possible.
In summary - don't be a douch bag.
FAQ - Frequently Asked Questions
How do I find a top/bottom/sub/play....partner?
Why get involved with UB?
Learn from real life people rather than online. Is easier to ask people questions in a safe and skilled environment.
Are there many younger / older people in UB?
UB has a wide range of people aged from 18 - 80+. Hard to say who will be at what event.
Is UB LGBT Friendly?
UB is accepting of all people, no matter how they identify (be it gender, orientation, or interests)
I'm coming to a party, will someone play with me?
Nobody is paid, nobody is forced, nobody is obligated to play with you.
It all depends on how you connect with people and the connections you make in the group. We always advise people to come to a Munch meet people and take an Orientation & Etiquette workshop, you can then get a feel for the group and start to make friends.
How does UB Work?
There are many different activities:.
Munches: these are the second Tuesday of each month they are a social ‘vanilla’ catchup where it’s a good chance to get to know people and chat. We also run through the groups finances, what events have been and what’s coming up
SIGs - Special Interest Groups - there should be a list on the UB website but some include sub SIG, S/M (sadist/masochist), equipment (for maintaining the UB equipment and help with projects), femmedommes, rope
Workshops - these are for a specific thing eg electro play or impact. Which is a great way to learn about play and then there’s a chance to try it out.
The rope group also has weekly classes.
A UB Steering and Ethics Committee over see group activities.
What do I wear to an event?
Read this article on what to wear for each type of event
What is "Personal Responsibility"?
It is your responsibility to take measures for your own safety and how you conduct yourself
How to I attend/sit an Orientation & etiquette Workshop?
These are available after the formal part of the Munch, held the second Tuesday of the Month.
The UB Admin team are asked for advice on this topic .... a lot!
Sometimes we get replies back and other times radio silence.
To make it easier for everyone this page was set up, to help give a little guidance.
UB Admins don't get paid, they do this to help the community, please be respectful of this.