What does that word mean?

Some words and phrases you may not have heard used before:


Clothed Female, Naked Male


Drop (sometimes called sub drop, dom drop and "The Mondays") is an experience with similar characteristics of depression that occurs after an intense SM scene

Ethics Committee

5 UB Members elected every July, to help oversee any Ethical or Disciplinary issues in the group.


A ticketing and payment platform UB uses to handle tickets, payments and entry in to events.


Daddy Dom / little girl. A relationship where the dominant male is the daddy figure and a woman plays the role of a young girl.


A member of the Community that is available to help newbies attend UB events, give advice and hold Etiquette and Orientations.


A casual social gathering for people involved in or interested in BDSM and Kink. Normally in a bar or public place.


A BDSM Event which is a mixture of play and social activities. Strict joining criteria requiring an Etiquette and Orientation prior to attending.


Strap-on Sex


Risk-aware consensual kink is an acronym used by some of the BDSM community to describe a philosophical view that is generally permissive of certain risky sexual behaviors, as long as the participants are fully aware of the risks.

Steering Committee

5 UB Members elected every July, to help run/steer the administration in the group.

Safe Word

A codeword a bottom can use to force BDSM activity to stop. RED or Safeword are observed as Safeword in the UB Community.


An event or opportunity to quickly try new types of play or techniques.


Unfinished Projects (Equipment SIG)

Glossary of BDSM Terms

From Wikipedia a more detailed A-Z of terms 

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